Events before and after the Okaden wedding ceremony [Kurashiki, Kibiji]
In writing this article, I only wanted to touch lightly on the wedding itself. The main topic of this article was supposed to be the story of Kibiji Bicycle, which is a travelogue unique to “Hebereke Kiko.
However, once I started writing, I ended up spending a lot of time on the wedding preparations. In fact, it would be more interesting to write about the hiccups in that area.
Even so, I have omitted quite a bit of the wedding story. The reason for this is that when I tried to make the story thicker and more interesting, I had to go into the private lives of my relatives and family members. This is something that the Okaden family, at least, does not like to talk about, so I could not write about it.
For example, “my brother” who used to have his picture showing his face here and there, no longer appears on this site. This is because he is no longer allowed to show his face. In the first place, even mentioning the Okaden family in a sentence is not allowed, and the fact that I write about my personal travelogue and children’s stories on this site itself raises the eyebrows of my parents.
Just the other day, I was having a videophone conversation with my mother, who told me, “Don’t invite your friends over to your house. She warned me that if I carelessly invite people who call themselves “friends” into my home, they may steal things or pry into my life.
I was surprised that my mother would say this to me after all these years. I am almost 50 years old. Why do I have to be told by my parents about inviting guests to my house every time?
The Okaden family is such a house where everything is a matter of course. This was mentioned here and there in the text. It is written in a way that says, “I give mouth but I also give money.
Of course, my home is not a place to invite strangers, but friends are always welcome to visit. If you have a personal relationship with me, let’s continue to do home party-like projects in the future.
Back to the story.
The most impressive thing about this wedding was that the phone rang at 2:00 in the morning on the day of the wedding, and Ishi’s father could not get out of the car because he adamantly refused to get in the car, saying, “I will never go. Ishi managed to calm his father down for 15 or 20 minutes on the phone, but it was a close call because Ishi’s family could not travel from Shizuoka and they might not make it to the wedding.
By that time, Ishi’s father had developed dementia, and his understanding of things was a bit questionable. At an event where the fathers of both families were asked to write their addresses in the witness column of the marriage certificate at a dinner party, he made a mistake and had to rewrite the marriage certificate from scratch.
Later, when they moved to a hotel after the ceremony, the father-in-law insisted that he was going home and that he was going to walk home because it was close to here and home, and the whole family stopped him from going anywhere, which led to the temporary suspension of the trip to Kurashiki City Hall to submit the marriage certificate and Isi’s follow-up with his father. The situation developed into the whole family stopping him from going anywhere.
My father-in-law died in the fall of 2022. I wrote about the gathering of relatives and the Buddhist altar in this month’s “Oka Deus,” but that was in connection with my father-in-law’s funeral.
In 2019, when I was still just barely aware of things, we got married, in 2021 we had a child and my father-in-law was able to hold her in his arms, and in 2022 he passed away.
I think the timing of my marriage to Ishi was good for some reason, but it was really nice for my father-in-law to be able to see his daughter get married and have a grandchild at the end of his life.
My life was changed forever by Corona. There were bad things, but there were also good things. That was us.In 2019, when I was still just barely aware of things, we got married, in 2021 we had a child and my father-in-law was able to hold her in his arms, and in 2022 he passed away.
I think the timing of my marriage to Ishi was good for some reason, but it was really nice for my father-in-law to be able to see his daughter get married and have a grandchild at the end of his life.My life was changed forever by Corona. There were bad things, but there were also good things. That was us.
Frequency of “Oka-Deus” updates
The frequency of updates is increasing. Many days I update twice a day with “In Between the Hells of Eating”. With the addition of “Hebereke Kiko”, I usually update three times a day.
Updates at 6:00 a.m. and 6:00 p.m.: Oka-Deus or Eating Hell, and 12:00 p.m.: Drunken Travelogue.
Of course, there is no time to save writing, so there are days when I cannot update, and the frequency of updates is often uneven.
The reason for the increased frequency of updates is that lately I’ve made it a habit to fall asleep while my son, Take, is in bed. He says, “I’ll be back today,” but he almost never comes back. Thanks to this, the news and movies we are supposed to watch together are all up in the air. As a result, I haven’t watched the news at all lately.
So, left alone, I write.
Anyway, I want to adjust the timeline of my articles to the “now” as soon as possible. Currently, I am trying very hard to catch up with the situation where I am writing an article on a topic that is more than 3 months behind.
For example, lately I have been calling out the words “elephant” and “gorilla” and “hikoki”. But such memories and records of “what was said” are not preserved in the photographs. Since Oca Deus is an article in which I comment on photographs, I can only write as much as I can remember from the photographs. What I really want to write about is not so much a big deal, but rather a small exchange or gesture. So when I write, I keep blurting out, “That’s not what I meant, that’s not what I really want to write about.
BGM of the Month
I feel like my ability to multitask is getting worse; just having music in the background makes me less efficient at my job.
YouTube is particularly distracting. You can’t just say, “I’m just going to watch this video. The amount of content is so overwhelming that I think it would be better not to use YouTube at all.
These are the headphones I’ve been using lately.
There is no end to the noise cancellation of earphones when you start to worry about it. I am sure I would be satisfied if I bought expensive Sony or Bose earphones, but I cannot spend that much money on TWS, which are consumable items that can get lost or damaged along the way. That is the limit of my personal growth.
As for noise cancellation, we are generally satisfied, but it is a bit weak. I even asked the manufacturer’s support desk, “Are you sure this is what you want, or is it an early defect?” I even asked the manufacturer’s support desk, “Is this really it, or is it an early bug? On the other hand, there was a time when I was completely careless and used them at home, and I didn’t notice the intercom sound at all, but I did get a notice slip from the delivery service.
What is interesting about these earbuds is that if you are in the same position all the time, they will alert you with a sound. There is a built-in sensor that detects the angle of your head and constantly checks the current tilt of your head.